Here are two structured plans to help you feel more in control and on the right path.

Jumping around the internet trying to piece together information you need can be confusing and overwhelming. Here, I offer you some structure to help you start to feel in control. Change it as best suits your situation.

Plan #1: If you are having relationship problems

1.Visit these two pages:

Why your relationship is dying

How to start saving your relationship

2. Read the answers to questions relevant to you:

For men in committed relationships

For women in committed relationships

3. Download the Great Relationship eBook (Free)

4. Decide if coaching or counseling would be more appropriate for your situation

Is coaching right for you?

5. If counseling best suits your needs, then get counseling.

6. If coaching best suits your needs, then sign up for the Introduction to Relationship Coaching Package (one month of services for the cost of one session)

7. Enjoy more life satisfaction and closeness with your partner.

Plan #2: If you are seeking a partner

1. Visit these pages:

Before You Look for Your Soul Mate

10 Steps to Finding a Soul Mate

2. Download the Great Relationship eBook (Free)

3. Read the answers to questions relevant to you:

For single men

For single women

4. Decide if coaching or counseling would be more appropriate for your situation

Is coaching right for you?

5. If emotional problems or psychological problems are preventing you from finding a good partner, then get counseling.

6. If you want to make an action plan for having a great partner, then get the Introduction to Relationship Coaching Package (one month of services for the cost of one session).

7. Enjoy meeting and dating good potential partners.

How to benefit from self-help information

Just getting information will no more fix your relationship than reading a cookbook will fill your stomach. Learn to value what you learn according to how much you apply. If you are not applying anything, then the material is useless for you regardless of how well written it is.

Here is a method for learning to benefit from what you learn:

1. Write out any good ideas you find on separate pieces of paper. Also put the date on the paper.
2. Put the papers in an envelope or box labeled "good ideas".
3. When you apply an idea in your life, put the paper in an envelope or box marked "useful".
4. Once a month, go through the box or envelope. For every idea that is a month old or older, put it in the trash.
5. If your good ideas envelope or box stays empty, you will need to either get help or give up. But don't give up!

TV and the internet have trained us to be consumers of information rather than users of information. To become successful in any endeavor, including relationships, you need to take effective actions, repeatedly until you get what you want. This is what a relationship coach can help you do.

I've got a lot more for you

There are more than 300 relationship help articles at my relationship coach blog. Although not as detailed as the relationship lessons you will receive when you download the eBook, they address many different relationship topics. The site is searchable, and you can see what others are looking at. You will also find more answers to your questions about coaching and relationships on this site. If you would like to learn more personal information about me, you can also read an Interview with Relationship Coach and Psychologist Jack Ito PhD. And, I invite you to send me an email. Every relationship requires someone to make the first move. I have made mine.

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