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Great Relationship Coach | Relationship Coaching Solutions to Marriage and Relationship Problems

Psychologist and Relationship Coach Jack Ito PhD (with his wife Toshie).

"I'm Jack Ito. I come from a small town in the North. I'm a churchgoer and a family man. I live with my wife Toshie, our two teen sons, and my mother and father in law. I helped our marines and sailors keep their relationships together when they were trying to forget their time in Iraq. I counseled children and couples for 16 years. I am a psychologist and relationship coach."

PHD Clinical Psychology
MA Theology
MentorCoach Certified Coaching Program Graduate
Former professor of psychology at Geneva
16 Years Marriage & Family Counseling and Coaching

Why Coach Jack is the right coach for you.

Dr. Ito invites you to find out how much relationship coaching can help you with this Special Offer:

Relationship assessment
Live coaching session
Email Coaching
20% Discount

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Do you feel like things are just too bad to fix? Don't let this feeling cheat you out of a better relationship.

Feelings are warning lights, they are not fatality reports.

Your feelings aren't wrong, but you need to understand what they mean.

How to correctly interpret your feelings:

Feeling trapped or stuck is an emotion we have when we don't know what to do. It has nothing to do with really being trapped or stuck. When you learn positive and effective things to do for your relationship you will no longer feel stuck or trapped. And, your relationship will improve. Feeling trapped or stuck signals a need for an effective solution.

A puzzle is only a puzzle until someone shows you how to do it.

Feeling like the relationship has already failed. Failure happens whenever we use methods that don't work. It doesn't mean our relationship is over. Every person in every profession, sport, or relationship experiences multiple failures until they learn the correct skills and get experience using them. Failure is only part of the learning curve when we continue to learn and practice. Repeated failure is merely a signal to get help from someone who knows better (e.g. coach, teacher, counselor, pastor, relationship coach).

Relationship coaching clients report feeling more hopeful as soon as they discover some things they can do.

Determine your emotional readiness for coaching

Not everyone is emotionally ready to work on their relationship. We can't just set aside strong emotions, but we must be able to do effective things until our emotions improve. If you are not emotionally ready for coaching, counseling should come first.

Read these two characteristics to see if you are emotionally ready for relationship coaching:

EMOTIONALLY READY PEOPLE

(Coaching candidates)

Emotionally ready people face reality. They give up the comforts of self-deception and avoidance. They are open to examining their current actions and are determined to replace unhelpful methods with helpful methods. They seek expert guidance and knowledge to become more personally effective, get more love, and have closer relationships.

Emotionally ready people take responsibility. Regardless of who is to blame for their problems, they do not wait for their partners to fix them. They are less concerned with being right, feeling justified, or blaming than they are with improving the relationship. They recognize that direct efforts to change their partners do not work and only cause greater emotional distance.

If you are not emotionally ready for coaching, then counseling is recommended as an initial intervention. If you are emotionally ready, then you may wish to start with a trial coaching session.

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