What Clients Have Said About Relationship Coaching

Relationship coaching is not about what a coach can get out of you. Relationship coaching is about what you can get out of life. The relationship coach is mentor, guide, teacher, companion, and consultant all rolled into one. As a relationship coach, my desire is to see measurable differences in the quality of your relationships and the achievement of your goals. Here are some of the things my clients have told me that they obtained through coaching.

Discovered Their Old Rules Were Getting in the Way of Having a Better Relationship

Clients discover that the reason that they keep obtaining the same results is that they keep trying to follow rules that just don't work. For example, "the way to do better is to try harder" is a rule that results in greater frustration rather than greater success. "We learn from our mistakes" is another obviously wrong rule. People continue to make the same mistakes again and again until they learn how to do better.

Took Responsibility for Improving Their Relationship and Became Empowered

Clients had often been stuck in neutral while waiting for their spouse or partner to somehow make their lives better. Waiting for others to act keeps us stuck, while taking action moves us forward.

Learned to Listen to Themselves

Too often clients had been following a program drawn up by someone else. Desires and ambitions have been put on hold so long that they were almost forgotten. Coaching clients again feel the excitement of creating their life as they want it.

Discovered the Power of Matching

Clients often had not realized that one of the reasons their relationships did not improve was that their behavior perfectly matched their partner's. When clients started to make changes, their partners made changes to adjust to them. Changing ourselves is the most effective way to change how people respond to us.

Learned to Set Priorities by Working for the Long Term

Client's had admitted that they often did not get to where they wanted to in their relationships because they were too caught up in day to day struggles, never getting anywhere. By creating an action plan, their lives became more fulfilling.

Learned That It's Ok to be Wrong

Clients dramatically increased their relationship success rate by focusing on achievable goals rather than on avoiding mistakes. They learned that improvement does not depend on the number of failures we have, but on the number of successes. Better to have ten failures and five successes than one failure and two successes.

Were Able to Find a Soul Mate

Clients said that they discovered that they were actually driving away the people that were best matched to them while ending up with the same kind of poor match again and again. From their relationship coaching, clients learned that they were choosing people that they needed rather than someone with whom their relationship would grow.

Learned How to Make Their Relationship Fun

Clients said that one of the reasons that their relationships were dissatisfying was that they were not fun anymore. With coaching, clients rediscovered their ability to have fun with their partner and their relationships became invigorated and alive.

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