How did this happen to your relationship? Are you headed for the end of your marriage or relationship?

If you are wondering whether you really need to give up on romance with your partner, the answer is a big 'NO'. Even a fire that has gone out can be re-lit.

Do you remember when you first met your partner? Do you remember the awkwardness and the excitement of being together for the first time? Can you remember the fun times? Silly times? Romantic times? Do you remember how hard it was to be away from your boyfriend or girlfriend even for a little while? And how good it was to get together again?

You've Been Through a Lot Together

As you and your partner started your life together, there were many changes and adjustments for both of you. But, in time, you worked things out. You "settled down" together. If things had gone on as they should, your love would have grown deeper with each passing year and you would feel like an inseparable part of your partner's life.

Something Went Wrong in Your Relationship

Something happened that you hadn't expected. It may have happened suddenly or it may have happened gradually, but you woke up one day and wondered, "Who is this person lying beside me?" You began to wonder what happened and what it was all coming to.

It May Not Seem Like a Relationship Anymore

If you are like many committed/married people, you are growing more distant from your partner each passing day. Some couples pass this time in relative silence--holding in their feelings until they just can't any longer. Others have found their relationships transformed into battlegrounds with no winners.

Letting More Time Slip Away is Not the Answer

These deteriorating relationships don't just start to get better with the passage of time. In fact, couples grow even more distant and love grows cold. It may seem to both that there is nothing more to save if it could be saved. They decide to live out their lives in quiet desperation or to divorce or break up and be done with it.

Don't Give Up Just Because Couples' Counseling Didn't Work

Some couples have fallen even more into despair because they have gone to marriage or relationship counseling and yet found their relationship no better a year later and often worse. Counseling had perhaps shed some light on things and rekindled old feelings for awhile, yet not enough for lasting change to occur. The flame of love got bigger for a little while--then went out.

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