Are you "too" patient? You can choose not to be and save your relationship. Here's how.
Waiting for your partner to change is the least effective thing you can do
Are you "patiently" drifting further and further apart?
Your partner, once your soulmate, may seem more and more like a stranger. It's strange how getting to know someone better can make you feel like you know him or her less. Is it because you really do know your partner better and don't like what you have learned? Or is it rather that you two are behaving differently toward each other, as you drift further and further apart? Do your differences cause emotional distance, or does emotional distance make the differences harder to tolerate? And how can you make things go back the other way--closer, more intimate, more caring?
"Being Patient," Breaking Up, and Divorce Are Not Solutions
The common approach to an unsatisfying relationship is to suffer through with a person who you feel is "wrong" for you. or to abandon your commitment and start fresh with someone else. These two choices seem different, but they are very similar. They both result in a broken relationship. Neither is a "solution." Neither is what a person would do if he or she had a better option.
Your Spouse or Partner is Not Preventing You From Making Your Relationship Better
Better relationships start with the resolve, inside you, to not continue to participate in Loveless Behavior Patterns. Better relationships grow when you demonstrate love while having healthy boundaries. The relationship is improved when love, respect, and trust are restored. Working with an interventionist coach will help you know how to start doing that. Can you imagine what your relationship would be like with love, respect, and trust?
Stop Wasting Time Trying to Get Your Partner to Understand
Most of the time, partners understand very well. They are just not motivated to change. Either because they think your needs are less important, or that your ideas are wrong. Trying to get your partner to understand really amounts to trying to get your partner to change his or her mind. This approach does not work. It only frustrates and divides. As you know.
Delaying Help Greatly Increases Your Risk
How long can you wait? How long will your partner stay in this relationship? How much are you missing out on in your life, by allowing a bad relationship to go unchanged? The people I work with are willing to risk the loss of their partner in order to make things better. Why? Because they know their relationship won't last if they don't, and because they don't want the relationship to last if it's not going to get better.
Are You Ready for Your Relationship to be Much Better?
Coaching and counseling are what people do when they figure out that waiting is not really what they want. One time consultation sessions and complete coaching packages are both available to help you have a better relationship, starting today. With coaching you will find out what you can do, right away, to make the changes that restore respect, trust, and love. Your partner will be glad you did, too.