You Can Make Your Current Relationship Better

It Starts With You

As you see your partner now, he or she may not seem like your soul mate. Many people have taken their relationships from mediocre (or even terrible) to wonderful. If you are in a committed relationship and want more than you now have, it is very possible that you can get it. A single person needs to have his or her life together before searching for a soul mate. It is no less important for married people. If your life is not together, how can you expect your partner's life to be together or to have a wonderful relationship?

"Being Patient," Breaking Up, and Divorce Are Not Solutions

The common approach to an unsatisfying relationship is to either suffer through with a person who you feel is "wrong" for you or to abandon your commitment and start fresh with someone else. Neither of these approaches actually holds much help for having a wonderful relationship. Getting a different partner is no assurance of having a wonderful relationship. Usually it just leads to a rerun of the previous relationship, feelings of failure, frustration, and resignation. But, it does not have to be that way!

Your Spouse or Partner is Not Preventing You From Having a Better Relationship

For the person who believes that nothing can be done, their greatest enemy to making their relationship better is not their partner. Rather, it is the belief that things can only get better if both they and their partner work on the relationship together. Waiting for a partner to make a change is what keeps people stuck.

Any improvement one person makes in their life is also going to lead to improvement for the couple--even if the partner does not consciously try to change. Every action on our part has a corresponding response on our partner's part. When we change our actions, we change the nature of the relationship. If you believe a bad action of your partner can make a difference, is it so hard to believe that good actions on your part can make a difference? The key is in taking effective action rather than waiting.

Delaying Help Greatly Increases Your Risk

Sometimes we hesitate to make changes, even positive ones, because we fear the reactions of others. There is a risk that they may respond badly to us or even leave us. But, when you consider the risk of continuing long term in a relationship in which you are not satisfied, without making any positive changes, the chances for conflict and abandonment are increased. Sacrificing long term happiness in order to avoid short term conflict simply does not make sense.

Relationship Assessment: Where You Are Now

When you begin coaching, your coach will help you to do a careful assessment of your satisfaction with a number of areas in your relationship and in your personal life. Every place that you are not satisfied is a place where you can take steps to improve and grow. Your coach will help you in this process, and be a support and mentor to you. The coach has no agenda for breaking you up from your partner. You work only on the goals that you want to and at your own pace. Because of your coach you do not need to go it alone. If and when your partner becomes ready to work on the relationship, the coach can work with you both to continue your success.

If you would like to get a relationship assessment and stop being stuck, talk with Coach Jack about your situation. Although change takes time and effort, getting unstuck starts with just one action. Make that action signing up for a session and you can be unstuck very soon. You alone have sole responsibility for whether you will take that action and for whether you get unstuck.

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