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Great Relationship Coach | Relationship Coaching Solutions to Marriage and Relationship Problems

Psychologist and Relationship Coach Jack Ito PhD (with his wife Toshie).

"I'm Jack Ito. I come from a small town in the North. I'm a churchgoer and a family man. I live with my wife Toshie, our two teen sons, and my mother and father in law. I helped our marines and sailors keep their relationships together when they were trying to forget their time in Iraq. I counseled children and couples for 16 years. I am a psychologist and relationship coach."

PHD Clinical Psychology
MA Theology
MentorCoach Certified Coaching Program Graduate
Former professor of psychology at Geneva
16 Years Marriage & Family Counseling and Coaching

Why Coach Jack is the right coach for you.

Dr. Ito invites you to find out how much relationship coaching can help you with this Special Offer:

Relationship assessment
Live coaching session
Email Coaching
20% Discount

Click Here for Details

Trial Coaching Offer

Coaching is more about "learning" than "coping".

Why Coaching is Different

Coaching is not better than counseling. It's a different thing altogether.

Counseling will help you to emotionally manage a difficult situation. (high emotional support, low skills training, doctor-patient relationship, mental health model).

Coaching will help you to change your situation. (low emotional support, high skills training, team relationship, personal effectiveness model).

Read through this example to get a sense of which approach would be best for you:

The Counseling Experience vs. The Coaching EXPERIENCE
(Click here to compare the counseling and coaching FEATURES)
Client	Counselor	Coach
(Waiting for first session)	Schedules appointment.	Schedules appointment. Asks client to complete a detailed relationship assessment.
(Session 1)"It's getting so I can't stand my relationship anymore. The person I thought I married is not the one I'm married to now."	"That sounds really tough. I know it's hard, but would you tell me more about it?" (Focus on emotional support and stabilizing patient. Main tool is reflective listening).	"From your assessment i see that you have identified several areas you want to work on. Where would you like to start?" (Focus on helping client experience a small success as quickly as possible).
Between Session 1 and Session 2	(No contact with therapist. Therapist's first goal is to gather a detailed history, so no assignments are given).	Client is expected to follow through on action decided in session one. Client can contact coach daily via email. (Client is presumed to be emotionally stable and able to follow through).
Session 2	Continue crisis management, history taking, formulate a diagnosis, plan goals to help patient recover from their psychological difficulty.	(Because of email contact, no "catch-up time is needed). Trouble shoot and revise action steps or move on to next step. Client and Coach work as a team. Help client to gain needed skills.
Future Sessions	Continue to help patient cope with reality of life situation until therapist's treatment goals are met.	Continue to help client to learn and implement skills desired to reach client's goals.

How specific questions are dealt with in coaching:

Coaching Client: "What do I do when my (husband, wife, boyfriend, etc.) says/does this...?"

Coach's Response: "Let's figure out, right now, the best way to deal with that."

(You will never get that from a book).

Unless you discover and take specific, effective actions, your situation will continue to deteriorate. You will either have to learn to cope with that or work on changing it. The choice is yours..

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