Finding the One Person You Want to Spend the Rest of Your Life With Requires the Dedication of Having a Great Career

You Can't Get a Great Job If You Are Not a Great Candidate. Neither Can You Get a Great Relationship Partner.

Only unhealthy men are attracted to unhealthy women, repeat, only unhealthy men are attracted to unhealthy women. If your life is not balanced, you will tend to be attracted to a partner who makes up for that imbalance, even if in other ways they are a totally wrong person for you. That is why we end up with partners who match us very well, but in the long run are not very good.

You Must End Your Loneliness Before You Look for Your Soul Mate

If you are lonely, you will tend to be attracted to a person who wants to spend all of their time with you even if he or she has severe problem areas. If you are financially deprived, a financially wealthy person will seem very fun and exciting--at first. These "matching people" are great for intense short term relationships.

When the relationship becomes long term, however, those things that attracted you initially won't be so important anymore. That's because that need will already be filled. You won't be lonely, won't be financially deprived, etc. If your relationship does not have more to offer, then at this point, it will start to become very dissatisfying.

Finding a soul mate means finding someone who the love will continue to grow with long after the initial romance is over. In order to find such a person, you must start out by having a balanced life. That is, just as the best time to look for a job is when you already have one, the best time to look for a partner is when you don't need one.

Your Soul Mate Must Not Be an Answer to Your Problems

While most people can tell when something is not right in there life or when they are missing something, they often go about trying to "balance" or "correct" their life with the wrong methods. Many relationships result from a person either trying to escape something that is difficult to tolerate or because they are trying to get something they think will be an answer to their problems. Neither of these types of relationship work.

"Catching" and "Keeping" Are Two Different Things

Even if by some miracle you find a wonderful, healthy partner, how long will your relationship last if you are also not a wonderful, healthy partner? You may not need to be a wonderful person to find a wonderful partner, but you must be a wonderful person in order to keep a wonderful partner. You don't need to be born that way to become that way.

How a Relationship Coach Will Help You to Find and Keep a Soul Mate

A relationship coach will start by helping you to do an assessment of the various different aspects of your life (career, friendships, growth, etc.). You will decide which ones you want to work on. The more put-together you are as a person, the more attractive you will be to other healthy people (unhealthy people will always be attracted to that part of you that they need), and the more likely you are going to be able to find a soul mate. That relationship will be characterized not by a need to be together, but by a desire to be together. That kind of relationship will be a wonderful base for many years of happy relationship growth.

A relationship coach will: 1) assess your life for areas that need attention; 2) work on goals that you choose to make your life great; and 3) help you to use new skills to get out of that unending cycle of failed relationships. Imagine what life would be like with that person who really does complete you.

You can sign up right now for a free coaching session which will include a free assessment.

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