Relationship coaching is not for everyone
Finding the right kind of help for your relationship is important. This self-assessment will help you to know whether counseling or relationship coaching is a better choice for you.
If you can answer "Yes" to all these questions, then you are a good candidate for relationship coaching:
| Yes No | Are you willing to give up your current ineffective methods of trying to improve your relationship and admit that they are not working? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to look at whether your actions or inaction are preventing your relationship from moving ahead? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to give up negative attempts to change your partner like complaining and blaming? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to be the first to change the way you and your partner interact, even if you didn't cause the problems? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to earn your partner's respect with self-control and healthy boundaries? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to learn the skills you need to have in order to improve your relationship, even if your partner does nothing? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to use those skills to improve your relationship for your partner's benefit as well as your own? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to let go of short term "quick fixes" and work toward long term intimacy? |
| Yes No | Are you willing to get necessary professional help even though you will have to pay for it? |
Frankly, most people do not make the choices necessary to have a good relationship. They rely on habit, avoidance, and quick fix methods. They do what is easiest to do today although it will prolong or worsen a bad situation. Such people seek things that make them feel better without doing anything to improve their situation. Relationship coaching clients tend to the business of creating a great relationship so that they can share the physical and emotional rewards with their partner.
Relationship Coaching Will Change You in Ways that You Will Like
- You will focus more on getting what you want rather than on decreasing what you don’t want. Having this kind of positive focus will cause your mood and energy level to improve.
- You will take actions that are simple and productive--focusing on one step at a time. Getting positive results will boost your self-confidence and make you feel more in control of your life.
- You will become better at goal setting and goal achievement. Having a "big picture" will help you become more excited about your future.
- You will positively manage other's criticisms, complaints, or attacks. This will encourage you and at first shock your partner. It will build your partner's respect.
- You will become more secure and a better communicator. No more walking on eggshells..
Am I Limited to Working on My Relationship?
As your relationship coach, I will focus on any change you want to make. Often to improve our relationships, we must first make changes in our personal lives. All coaches are first trained in general life coaching before they specialize. When you hire a relationship coach, you are getting both a life coach and a relationship coach in one. When you hire an intervention specialist, you are getting the highest level of care available for your relationship. Some intervention specialists charge more than $1000.00 for a single session. I offer my services at the lowest cost possible so that more people can improve their relationships.